Marriage is to reflect the relationship of Christ and his church (Eph. 5:31–33), and that involves the peace and reconciliation that we have in Christ. If our relationship with God is not in order, we cannot expect our marriages to be. “You cannot get second things by putting them first; you can get second things only by putting first things first” (C. S. Lewis, God in the Dock, “First and Second Things,” p. 281). As conflicts arise we must not let the sun go down on our anger, but “speaking the
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